Okay, so I actually read this through & I would like to use this as a corner stone example of a thought project I've been navigating for awhile that I know I won't be able to come up with conclusions on my own.

I'm also sure that I'm not the only one. https://twitter.com/steve_asbell/status/1281387446865887234

Leading:

This parent needs help & support, parents of autistics are often left out to their own limited resources & I can understand how that stress can get to them, but also what she's harboring..the way she's harboring it..is the same thing that has lead to deaths of children.

Parents have a shit ton of deprivation from necessary resources.

But we can also note, acknowledge, & highlight the very long history that is the divide of disabled folks & their parents.

This struggle is especially not sustainable for BIPoC folk.

Thought project:

How do we create a bridge.

We sincerely do need to do a better job at making all autistic stories visible, but there's also the boundary of doing so without allowing folk (mostly nonautistics) to dehumanize those experiences.

We also need for these kinds of parents to get involved in disability justice *along side* their autistic children to help us demand the resources that we both need Rather Than having these kinds of parents being fed off of orgs such as A$, where those feelings of exhaustion &

desperation will be fed, & they will be led to be convinced them that things such as ABA & pumping ridiculous amounts if funds into "autism cures" are the only hope.

Rather than *gestures towards: autistics have been advocating for our lives & have ideas that need more support*

Especially as a Black autistic person who recognizes how dissociating from non-autistic BIPoC parents of autistic children --especially given the already limited resources BIPoC have in relation to autistim-- is NOT a sustainable nor functional option.

Regardless, my focus is on Black folk & the BIPoC umbrella, & the kinds of resources that I will be looking into finding/encouraging/creating will reflect that.

But also if white folk want to be a part of the overarching autistic discussion, y'all are welcome to do that as well.

At the end of the day parents will have the support that they need if we get all of the supports that we need, and there is this gaping whole that for whatever reason is making this unclear.

Some parts are intentional (varying),
Some parts are truma responses.

Also, welcome to my brain.

Please take off your shoes while you're visiting.