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The ppl who screech about how detransitioners are the ones who made mistakes and can't own up to it are truly painful to read. I don't speak for every detransitioner but I blamed myself heavily until I learned about other detransitioners and how similar our experiences were.
That blame, guilt, and regret would plague me day in, day out. To act like detransitioners are looking to play the blame game for asspats is minimizing. Do we blame chemo patients for misdiagnoses? Do we blame anorexic patients for how they handle their conditions?
Do we blame those with bipolar disorder for self-medicating in sometimes harmful ways? Hell no. We're empathetic, understanding, supportive. Why does that suddenly vanish when it comes to detransitioners? Why are people who got misdiagnosed, sometimes by MULTIPLE experts, made to
be the "bad" guys? Why can't we criticize a system and ideology that enabled us to cause irreversible harm to our bodies? For fucks sake. I was diagnosed by a gender therapist and a physician at a gender clinic. I was told by both that transition was the best move for me, and
when I began T, I was told I was having a successful transition. I spoke to both about my childhood abuse, my confusion about my attraction to women, my concern that I might have autism. Both affirmed these were non-issues wrt transition. My community affirmed the same.
Not one person stopped me besides my family. Not one person told me, when I was 13 and socially transitioned, that I might change my mind. Adults told me endlessly that I'd grow out of being a tomboy up till then, yet not one spoke out about me suddenly "becoming" a boy.
I had this same derision towards detransitioners, and it pains me to see people echo that today. You aren't making yourself more secure in your identity by blaming us for "mistaking" ours. Many detransitioners still suffer from dysphoria - by trans definitions, they'd be one of
you. Yet they aren't, and you treat them like they have simple buyers remorse, as if they've never experienced or felt what you have.
I was a "trans guy" for 8 years. Do you think I did this for fun? Because I hate trans people and wanted to shove this in their faces?
I was a "trans guy" for 8 years. Do you think I did this for fun? Because I hate trans people and wanted to shove this in their faces?
Do you think I stabbed myself once a week for a year to inject myself with T because I wanted to own the libs? What does that say about /you/ that you believe someone could, for such a petty reason?
Believe it or not, we WERE you, often for a large part of our lives.
Believe it or not, we WERE you, often for a large part of our lives.
