Things I learned during my first six months as an independent companion, (some off these lessons is directly correlated to living in a country where the Nordic model rules) a thread:

I’ve learned to really stand my grounds. I’ve always been somewhat of a pushover, but as a sexworker, that’s not going to work. Predatory clients can smell insecurity and will try to take advantage of that in every way they can. Whether it’s negotiating rates

deposit, refusing to screen, etc. to actually putting you in a dangerous situation. I rather say no one to many times than take a risk (I know this is a privilege I have).

This has also helped me out a lot in my civil life/carrier. I’m going in to a very competitive work market and through SW I’ve gained a confidence I don’t think I would have had otherwise

I now how to say no, how to use my social skills and, lets face it, many bosses in my field are middle age men so I’ve learned how to use my looks

Here’s something small: but I’ve actually learned that I’m pretty good looking haha? No better feeling that meeting a man at a bar for the first time and have him actually gasp when he sees your face haha

I’ve learned almost too much about the Nordic model and what hypocrisy it is.

I’ve been an interested in politics since I was 13 (almost 11 years ago haha...) and started calling myself a feminist at 14. I know how we used to reason about the Nordic model and sex work

“It’s payed rape” “they can’t consent” “poor girls always being used” “Nordic model is so good because the poor girls can get out of SW and not be the bad guys, the clients are” FALSE

I’ve argued for the Nordic model this way to (I was a child don’t blame me) but actually having to live under it and now that I have a law degree, it’s made me realize what a bad law built in morals it is

The purpose is NOT to protect SWers, in that case it would be easier to pay taxes, report clients who miss treat us without losing all our livelihood, work safe, screen clients (I screen because I care about myself and I know screening in Sweden is a privilege)

The stigma is the worst part about being a SWer in Sweden. If this came out, I think I would loose everything, because all my friends and family have such bad feelings about SW. Also why I take so few clients and screen them, if they out me I out them

It’s interesting that Sweden, who pride itself on being so rational and listening to experts (see our Corona strategy) refuse to listen our change anything when it comes to its politics regarding SW and drug use. Obviously, the Nordic model isn’t working. Just yesterday

there was a new case of trafficking in Sweden. We have to change something, the Nordic model hasn’t worked for tha past 20 years, at least talk to us about it! @johanssonmorgan @AsaLindhagen

The Nordic model is a clumsy (can’t find a better word haha) law that doesn’t care about sexworkers. It’s all just a facade.

I remember when I was studying criminal law and we were talking about the Nordic model. One girl raised her hand and asked “if the police had the right to confiscate a SWers phone/computer, then if she goes to them to report a rape, won’t all her clients be exposed

and what if that’s her main livelihood? Then she probably won’t report bad clients to the police..? And how will she know tha clients real identity, they probably won’t tell SWers that” it was like a big unveiling, that the Nordic model only protects in theory

but in reality, the Nordic model puts SWers in danger. The government sees sexwork as dirty and shameful and wants it out of the country, but that’s not gonna work! Sexwork is one of the oldest professions and even to you don’t like it, it will always exist.

We have to figure out a way where the ones in the business are actually there voluntarily and where they can work safely. This is also something that makes me sad every time I try to advertise in Sweden. The websites are so trashy and the clients who come from

there doesn’t want to pay your rates, don’t respect you and show generally trashy behavior. I really blame the Nordic model for this

Clients from Twitter >> clients from advertising sites

En sak till svenska klienter: sluta ta råd av Flashbacks delforum för eskortservice. Det är så extremt låg nivå där och jag kan vara där i exakt två sekunder, sedan får jag ångestpåslag.

Also: Sex work is SO MUCH WORK