'Gender identity' is how your brain is wired up to be comfortable.

'Gender expression' is clothing, hair etc assigned to a gender by your society.

'Gender Roles' are roles assigned to genders by society

The last two are social constructs. The first is neurobiological.

"Gender is a societal construct" foolishly puts the three together.

Gender identity is neurobiological, not psychological. It isn't learned, and children do not adapt well when forced into a gender identity they are not.
A classic example is from botched circumcisions that where given gender reassignment and told to raise them as girls.

I am intersex. I fall somewhere between the arbitrary medical definitions of male and female. So am I a man or a woman?
My body is intersex, but my brain tells me I am a woman. Given any option, I would always chose woman and feel hella uncomfortable in the role of a man.

I would therefore say my "gender identity is woman".

This isn't a choice, and cannot be adjusted by therapy (they have tried for hundreds of years). It's just the fact of things. Like I have mousy brown hair, I am tall, I burn easily in the sun.

My gender identity is female.

It isn't delusional... It's how I am wired up, most likely due to hormone exposure in utero during the development of my brain. It was set to female. And That's that.

So That's gender identity. How does that play into the other two parts?

Well, I express my gender identity through gender expression. I am comfier in clothes my society attributes to women. I look great in makeup, and my hairstyle is attributed as "feminine".
My society uses "she" for feminine, and it feels right to me to use it.

There isn't any sexual gratification to my gender expression. It isn't a kink. I am just expressing my gender, and by extension who I am and how I see myself.

It isn't a trick. It isn't a trap. It is what it is. Expression within a society.

And as for gender roles? Fuck them. I bang my head up against the glass ceiling now, and put up with bullshit because people see me as a woman and assign my place for me. Screw that.

As an intersex person I sit in a gap between a binary society. As someone who was wrongly assigned at birth, I fall into a hated and misunderstood category- transgender.
I cannot stop being either of these things. No amount of pressure or attacking can change these things.

And yet, here we are having "feminists" trying to destroy people like me because they want to uphold society's problematic constructs.

Enforcing gender expression and gender roles serves the patriarchy. That isn't feminism, that's the opposite.

Of the three, Gender identity isn't the problem our society need worry about. Gender roles and expression? Yeah.
Gender identity isn't something that can be rewired or fixed. It just is.
You either roll with it or suffer... often so horribly you can't live for the disjoint.

People who need to transition should be able to, so they can get on and have healthy lives free from gender dysphoria, from suffering. That's it. That's all there is to it.

You either let people suffer and (often) die, or you help them be who they need to be to be happy.

One of these is kind, and fits the medical oath. The other is cruel, and destroys lives.

I chose to be happy within my skin. Now I just need for the assholes who feel somehow threatened by that to let me get on with my life.

There is no trans conspiracy. Noone who has experienced Gender Dysphoria wants to push anyone to live in a gender that grates against their gender identity... that's like saying people with migraines want to give everyone migraines.

There is just a whole chunk of society whose gender causes them great suffering. And we have the means and method to alleviate that.

So why not just care for people?