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Maybe the reason for that is because you are a large voice in the asexual community. I personally didn’t know how to tell you how it made me feel, especially when I asked you for clarification, and I felt afraid to push back because of the voice you hold. https://twitter.com/theyasminbenoit/status/1279631868112056320
I originally intended to just walk away and keep my feelings to myself, but felt encouraged later by others to speak out.
Later, I posted this: https://twitter.com/scretladyspider/status/1279625801047121920
Later, I posted this: https://twitter.com/scretladyspider/status/1279625801047121920
I tried to ask for clarification, too. The phrases “they experience attraction like allos do” and “their experience was once quite asexual until the sexual desire for others kicked in” in particular made me feel like you were saying when demis experience attraction we aren’t
aspec anymore. And yes, we have different romantic orientations, but when we experience attraction we aren’t experiencing attraction “like allos do”. And I felt like I had to leave it alone - again because it felt risky to push back against a large voice.
I didn’t feel like your responses were clarifying or supportive of demisexuality, both to me and users asking what you meant. But I didn’t know how to voice this concern, as I tried to ask further clarification questions but I didn’t know how to respond after this:
Especially since it doesn’t seem like you’re discussing the split attraction model here. I felt I had to step away and collect myself.
I understand you are human, we are all learning. However the response that other demis have shared this tweet doesn’t actually address the root of what happened.
I am demisexual. When I experience attraction again, I will still be demisexual. I won’t be experiencing attraction as allos do. Demisexuality has an important relationship to asexuality. And I’m not sure how to end this, but... there, I said it.
