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It alarms me how few people understand the connection between abuse & divorce rates in modernity.
If divorce is skyrocketing, guess what else is?
Abuse
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If divorce is skyrocketing, guess what else is?
Abuse
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One glance at statistics & you'll see that intimate partner violence is a very serious problem; not an individual problem, a systemic social problem.
While physical abuse still happens, it's emotional & psychological abuse that are becoming more frequent.
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While physical abuse still happens, it's emotional & psychological abuse that are becoming more frequent.
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It makes no sense to me, given statistics, why we continue to victim blame (why would you choose to marry an abuser?).
Why aren't we instead asking ourselves why is so much abuse occurring?
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Why aren't we instead asking ourselves why is so much abuse occurring?
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I sometimes wonder if people really have no idea how abuse works, especially the rising emotional & psychological kind.
Covert abuse is insidious. There are no bright red flags that warn someone to run. It is only after marriage & kids that the mask comes off.
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Covert abuse is insidious. There are no bright red flags that warn someone to run. It is only after marriage & kids that the mask comes off.
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It is at this point the abused starts to figure out what's happening & decides to leave.
Contrary to popular opinion, women don't just wake up one day & decide divorce & single motherhood sound exciting.
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Contrary to popular opinion, women don't just wake up one day & decide divorce & single motherhood sound exciting.
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Sure, there are gold diggers & women who get bored so they decide to leave, but for every gold digger & Chad chasing woman, there's at least 5 women leaving bc of abuse.
That's alarming, no?
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That's alarming, no?
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It's clear there is a cycle of violence & it's growing.
But, no one wants to talk about this contribution to the demise of the nuclear family.
Maybe it's time we start facing reality & asking some hard questions.
Or, we can just keep our heads in the sand & destruct.
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But, no one wants to talk about this contribution to the demise of the nuclear family.
Maybe it's time we start facing reality & asking some hard questions.
Or, we can just keep our heads in the sand & destruct.
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