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Polyamory is not better than monogamy. Positioning it as such can be dangerous. However, a lot of cishet men are deeply threaten by it because it leaves room for cishet women to get their needs/wants met and lots of cishet men are used to ownership, domination, and dependency.
When cishet women find pleasure and power in polyam their partners usually struggle. People assume women struggle more but it’s usually the opposite. Lots of cishet meN will push to open the relationship for sex though but when their girlfriends/wives actually start thriving? LOL
Poly dynamics force you to confront a lot about yourself. You have to have integrity, practice care, and be honest. But you also have to be able to accept that you can’t give your partner everything and they will go get their needs met.
This is a struggle for people who want to be a persons everything. It’s a stuggle for people who see not being able to give something to a partner as a deficit in themselves. For other people it can feel freeing and it can open them up to more love and more experiences.
Also. Polyamory gets complicated when couples aren’t having hard conversations about desirability politics. When one person is pulling em and the other isn’t?!? Oh baby it gets hard.
