TW: Sexual frustration and it's interconnection with misogyny, in Pakistan's context. [A THREAD]

So the social structure of Pakistan is as such: externally, we've maintained a conservative (mental) environment on one hand, while at the other,

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our youth is consumed with the notion of sexual liberation, as is demonstrated in porn, 'item numbers' in films, and other visualizations.
Jokes on rape, fornication and homosexuality are common especially in male gatherings, but also in female (or even mixed) gatherings.

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When our young men and women curse, majority of what we hear is disgusting remarks on the private parts and chastity of women. They are usually attributed to the women that belong to the family of the abused.

I believe we fail to recognize the severity of this matter.

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In a somewhat conservative society such as ours, the women in other families are just like the women in your family.
They guard their chastity, protect the family's honour, pray for you day in and day out, and you burn away all their efforts by your disgusting remarks.

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This abhorrent form of misogyny and sexual perversion in our society go hand in hand: each of them contributes to the other.

This culture discussed in the preceding tweets have severely objectified women, which initially came about by (1) capitalization on women's bodies,

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and (2) men seeing women as a property, not an individual, sovereign human being.

Now the next question we need to ask ourselves is how does this endless circle effect our young kids(especially boys)? And how to break out of it?

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I'll start of this part with a confession. Normalization of rape jokes, & jokes on other friends being "bondays" (the bottom homosexual) and other disgusting themes start off at the middle school. Boys that didn't reach puberty (and have feminine traits),

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are subject to constant mockery and harassment. Unfortunately, the school administration and the teachers pay a blind eye to it. They pretend that this filth isn't prevalent, or that is doesn't exist at all.

Why do those kids tolerate it?

Hint: No sex education.

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1. Such a behavior is normalized and kids think it is a part of life.
2. At puberty, where children are supposed to be educated, parents pay a blind eye to it and those children are forced to learn about sex through the internet(first google, then porn).

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One of my initial conclusions is that parents should not leave the children at devil's mercy when they reach puberty. Take a categorical approach, and educate them about sex: it's purpose, Allah's blessings that come with it. Teach them it's not something disgusting,

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but one of the wonders of Allah(swt). Teach them that it's something that is sacred, and should be celebrated for a special time (i.e., after marriage). Stop treating it as a taboo. Only then can our children be protected from perversion and degeneracy.

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Once the sanctity and objective of sexual relations is affirmed, our children will (1) stop seeing women as inferior objects, have (2) more emotional control and maturity regarding issues of sex. And most importantly (3) the gap between parents and children will reduce.

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The three points in the preceding tweet will radically change our social structure (for the good). And with the reduction of gap between parents and children, the fitnāh of cursing the women will wipe away, slowly, but surely.

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O Allah, enable us to reinstate the social status Islam gave to women. Protect our young kids from sexual perversion, indoctrination, and wipe away misogyny from our lands, and allow us Muslims to be at the forefront of social justice and intellectual progress. Ameen!

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