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since it's pride month and since people still might not know I'm agender since I didn't have a Big Epiphany Moment I wanted to talk about it a little bit:
ignorant people are like "you can't just wake up one day and decide you're [insert label here] now!" but sometimes, or at least for me, it really do be like that lmao
discovering I'm aroace was more of a slower realisation over time (especially the aro label) but when it came to gender, I'd had some quiet thoughts about it after talking to people about their gender identities and listening to their stories about it,
and then one day I literally woke up like HM DON'T REALLY FEEL 100% LIKE A CIS WOMAN ANYMORE. HUH.
after that came a little more introspection while I thought about labels, because trans wasn't right, nor nonbinary, or a few more, then I just thought. "what if no gender at all?"
after that came a little more introspection while I thought about labels, because trans wasn't right, nor nonbinary, or a few more, then I just thought. "what if no gender at all?"
so I tentatively settled on agender and put "they" in my bio next to "she" (ftr it still feels weird referring to myself as anything but she, but I'm sure it's 27 years of habit and I love when people make an effort), but I didn't want to make a big deal in case I was wrong.
which...it's okay to be wrong about it, or only right for a while, or suddenly decide after 27 years of identifying as a cis girl that actually you would like to return your gender. refund please. or even store credit if the receipt isn't valid anymore.
and I'm very much still cis-passing and don't desire to change that, both because I enjoy looking like what society thinks a woman is, and also because I'm too lazy for the hassle; much like I'm still very much straight-passing because I can't be arsed explaining myself 24/7
so it's more like a quiet, internal pride rather than big loud rainbows, and I don't really care if people get it "wrong" (as much as they can when I'm still shaky on it) because it's not for them, it's for me.
anyway idk happy pride from your favourite triple-a threat
anyway idk happy pride from your favourite triple-a threat
(end note: saying I'm aro/ace/agender is extremely pleasing because the assonance is so very good. my own identity gives me good stim vibes. fuck yeah)
