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This entire Jenna thing has made me reflect on some stuff. I think it is inevitably unhealthy to "stan" another person. Putting a real other human being on a pedestal will always lead to pain for both parties, the one who stans and the one who is stanned. People are just people
and instead of distinguishing this person as bad and the other as good, maybe we need to start recognizing that they are human. Not meaning that they shouldn't be held accountable, but our expectations should stop being so high. I have tried to separate myself a little from the
katie fandom, because 1. People are crazy and invasive 2. Because another human being who does not care about you as an individual is not worth getting upset over 3. Having the expectation of your fav being "an unproblematic queen" will inevitably show that that is not true
because they are human beings and they make mistakes. The glorification and high expectations put on favs needs to stop, because it is inhumane. You wouldn't expect your romantic partner to be everything you need, because they are just one person, so stop putting that expectation
on your favs. There is nothing wrong with being inspired by your fav and spending time on them, however a lot of people (myself included) tend to get so attached to a person that does not care one single bit about you outside the group you are a part of. They will hurt you if you
keep putting them on a high pedestal. They are not super-human, they are just doing a job they enjoy and I am really considering how much of our attention should be on favs as a person instead of on the craft they do. You will not glorify a cashier, because they are just doing
their job, maybe they do their job amazingly, but still you will not get invested in their personal lives. Acting, singing or creating content, whatever your fav does, it is just a job, and while the art of the job should be admired, maybe we need to stop admiring the makers to
such a big extent. I know favs can bring people a lot of comfort, so they used to do for me, but at the end of the day you are glorifying a human being that does not care about you and is just doing their job, and this hyperfixation on one person will always lead to pain.
Liking a celeb is fine, but I think a lot of people (myself included) live unbalanced lives where you are living for another person, while you should be living for yourself. You matter and you deserve to live a fullfilling life.
