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every single person has said & done problematic shit. I have. you have. your parents have. your siblings have. your pastor has. your favorite singer has.
most people have a lot to learn (and unlearn) bc of how we were raised. what matters is whether someone is willing to do so.
most people have a lot to learn (and unlearn) bc of how we were raised. what matters is whether someone is willing to do so.
I'll own my fuck-ups: I've been the bad friend. I've been the selfish partner. I can be bad at communicating with others when I'm tired or anxious. even just a few years ago, I would adamantly defend myself when I should have been listening instead.
but since 2018 I've been working to better myself every single day. I have notes on my desk to remind me to be a better listener & be more patient with my loved ones. I read self help books. until last year, I was in therapy to tackle my issues and grow (it helped a lot).
I have friends who've done some dumb shit both offline & off (maybe they're even an artist you follow). when they tell me about their experiences, there's obvious shame & regret. to me, that's the biggest possible indicator of true growth: genuine regret for the hurt they caused.
we do need to hold people accountable, but we also need to examine the context of their actions. was it a result of spite or was it straight-up human ignorance? are they willing to listen & learn? have they taken real steps to connect w/ the people they've hurt?
I'm not saying we should excuse bad behavior; we just need to be more mindful in how we react to other people's words/actions
it's easy to think we know what a user is about, but our online personas are just a fraction of who we are; human beings are complex...and messy
it's easy to think we know what a user is about, but our online personas are just a fraction of who we are; human beings are complex...and messy
finally, to anyone that I've hurt with my words over the years, I say this from the bottom of my heart: I'm sorry. I'm trying to be better. feel free to reach out if you'd like to have a conversation, because I'm listening.
(it feels good to get that out there)
(it feels good to get that out there)
