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LRT's thread is good to ponder over and why I don't feel comfortable with random people telling me to unfollow ___ because they did____. I, at the least, want to educate myself about what they've done, where they stand now, and what they're moving forward with doing.
Do not mistake this as I want to hear both sides. When it comes to abuse (especially of women & disempowered people) I will always believe the victim. Rather, nuance is always important. Unfollowing is a personal decision & is not necessarily the answer to finding accountability.
I am sure I am following folks who others have blocked/muted. And that's valid but so is my following them. My experience with them may be different. Maybe I see them making earnest changes and maybe am helping them with that.
This is circumstantial, of course. Again. Nuance.
This is circumstantial, of course. Again. Nuance.
Unless someone is a very close friend of mine or I've seen doing earnest good, I don't have problems unfollowing or revoking support from someone. Lemme may it clear: there should be no space made or love given to unrepentant abusers who haven't embraced accountability.
I see people criticizing folks who remain friends w/abusers or people who have fucked up. Being a friend (or a follower) does not imply condoning/enabling abuse. It can be calling out or challenging them to be better in a way that is more impactful than strangers confronting them
