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Dear Muslim men looking to get married, don't be idiots. Don't be impressed when your prospect says she wears hijab/niqab. No, don't give it much thought even if she says she's been wearing it since she was a baby.
Don't make it your sole, or even main criteria.
Don't make it your sole, or even main criteria.
Rather, look for emotional compatibility. Talk about expectations, goals, likes & dislikes. Ask about when they got really angry and how they dealt with it. Ask about their relationships with fam/friends. Make them take their MBTI quiz (it's fun 
). Ask about mental health.
). Ask about mental health.
You can never know someone fully, yes, but these Qns show a part of their actual personality.
Speaking from experience, my ex was impressed that I did hijab-black abaya since 11th grade. But our engagement of 1yr9months didn't last because that was his main criteria all along.
Speaking from experience, my ex was impressed that I did hijab-black abaya since 11th grade. But our engagement of 1yr9months didn't last because that was his main criteria all along.
He was upset when I wore a lose colored coat with hijab. He didn't like when I talked about my educational goals. He didn't like talking about mental health issues. Or women related issues. He didn't get a hijabi submissive partner. Because he thought hijabis ARE trad/submissive
It's fine if you want someone like that. In the end he told "he doesn't want someone who believes in women empowerment" (
) It took him ages to realize that I have a brain beneath the scarf. But knowing what he actually wanted could've saved many people from hurt & saved my time
) It took him ages to realize that I have a brain beneath the scarf. But knowing what he actually wanted could've saved many people from hurt & saved my time
