Clarification because I think some people could be confused by wording : this obviously also means that this is the truth for straight folks, too, but marriage equality is not marriage equality until all of us (cishet or not, abled or disabled) can get married without penalty 1/2 https://twitter.com/AndreaLausell/status/1276227670729035776

Also I'll link to it when I find it but there's a great thread out there that talks about how you can't even appear to be married to your s/o and there are people out there who will use even social media or interviewing family and friends as evidence to strip away benefits.