I’ve been seeing a lot of posts saying “dm me if I’m friends with your abuser and I’ll cut them out of my life” and I don’t mean to attack anyone personally but this has been making me angry (1/n)

I went through an incredibly traumatic experience with a friend and although I wasn’t assaulted recovering from it this past year has been incredibly hard, from waking up from nightmare unable to breathe, flinching at the thought of being touched and the general distrust (2/n)

When this incident happened, my so-called best friend decided to stay “neutral” and didn’t even bother checking up on me and hearing my side of the story so she wouldn’t have to pick sides. To this day they’re still supposedly very good friends (3/n)

The experience itself is already hard enough but having your own close friend pick neutrality over you is what really drives home the pain. (4/n)

We need to question our friends’ behaviour and we need to intervene. Everyone says abusers are all around us but what needs to be understood is that they’re also our own friends. It’s not enough to say ‘dm me and I’ll cut them off’, we need to pay attention in the moment. (6/n)

this probably wasn’t the most well worded but I’m just so sick and tired of this (7/7)