To all the men who are confused about why it's wrong to ask (or who genuinely want to know the answer to) the question "how do we ask women out in this era of callouts and cancels?" - it's because it immediately signals that you just don't care about or respect women, at all.

If you have to ask that in a time when legitimate predators are being outed left and right, it means that you haven't spared a single thought to what women have to navigate, that you fundamentally mistrust women & probably never knew how to behave around them in the first place.

And to be clear, there's nothing wrong with being nervous about approaching people you like. Not knowing how to flirt or how to signal that you like someone is so extremely common. Asking for advice on that is totally fine, and a lot of people would be happy to help I'm sure.

But if you're asking specifically how to approach women NOW, as opposed to any other time, it shows that you're obviously aware that something is happening with women, but you've not made any effort to understand what. Because you don't care about women. You don't trust them.

So really, you want to know how to approach women and not "risk" being seen as, or literally being, a predator?

Start caring about them. REALLY caring. Start trusting them. Listen to what they're saying and what your fellow men who don't share this fear at all are telling you.

It may not be easy, certainly not if you're not used to having to legitimately empathize with people who are different from you. But that's what it takes, and I promise you it's not rocket science. Children can learn how to do this early on, you certainly can too.

"But there are vindictive people out there who could ruin you or no reason!"

That could be anyone. Are you avoiding all people because they could suddenly betray you? No? Just (attractive) women?

You don't trust women. Because you don't trust what you don't understand. Learn.

PS: If you don't have any women as friends, get to work on that first.

Because if you don't, and your first or only priority is knowing how to get women to have sex with or be romantically interested in you, I have bad news about your creep factor.

PPS: To the men nodding along because get it already, please help us. Educate your fellow men. Please.

It can't be just on us to take the brunt of this issue & also teach & reassure men while trying to do our jobs and also uplifting & supporting other women. We're tired, guys.