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speaking to your friends about conflict in your relationship esp can cause evil eye. it's a natural thing for people who love you to want to protect you and despise anyone not treating you fairly. it's not a "bad thing" i'm just grateful for the boundary. https://twitter.com/DaunnyPhantom/status/1276125437329125376
especially if you want to still pursue that relationship the amount you complain can really taint the respect your loved ones has for your partner and for you for staying with someone who stresses you out. it's good to keep your intimate relationships private.
after you vent enough it can genuinely deteriorate your friendship if you are consistently just unloading your stress. they stop believing the relationship has hope or you can change your mind in a healthy way.
some friends also get a little too comfortable and think it's their place to insult your loved on the same level because of how you speak about them. it's better to avoid all of this entirely. set boundaries.
insecure for example: issa and molly barely had boundaries and they used the intimate things they shared together to judge each other in the end. they lost respect for each other because they couldn't see each other as growing or evolving. it broke the friendship.
they always spoke to each other in reference to the past and when the other person was changed and happy they couldn't see it because they had a friendship based in trauma. it places a literal fog over the bond.
if you have done this my best advice would be to take space and naturally let the way you speak to and about your loved ones shift. shut down conversations that you aren't interested in having and don't let anyone force you to share what you don't want to.
