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I hope this doesn't sound inconsiderate but it is really, really unfair to tell your friends you're feeling suicidal and then absolutely refuse any help but theirs. You're putting responsibility for your life on them, and they're not trained for it. Talk, yes, but seek help too.
I say this from experience, sadly. I've spent my entire life feeling guilty for my dad's suicide even though I was only 5 years old. If he'd talked to a professional he might still be here.
Your friends care, but they can't solve medical problems. Including depression.
Your friends care, but they can't solve medical problems. Including depression.
And please -- don't give me that "therapists don't care, they're just getting paid to listen" crap unless you also say "I'm not going to hospital for my broken leg because the doctors are getting PAID. I'll just get my random friend to fix it."
Same thing.
Same thing.
Way too many people refuse to even consider or research therapy or medication -- things clinically proven to work -- and instead expect to just mind-over-matter their way out of it, or for something to magically change, or for their untrained friends to come up with a solution.
It's your decision to try things or not, but don't say "therapists are just paid to spout bullshit!" to your friends who've worked hard in therapy. Don't flat out refuse to try it based on zero research, or discount their experience based on your assumptions of "pill-pushers"
You might think you're only insulting what you consider to be a "bullshit industry," but likely you chose that friend because they've been through hard times and pulled through -- often because of therapy. So telling them it's bullshit & their therapist doesn't care is hurtful.
Also... possibly don't choose a friend based on the fact that they lost someone to suicide, or recently went through something major. You're opening wounds you don't know how to close.
I feel awful saying it but people often choose me to tell about suicidal thoughts, because of losing my dad. But the ravine of guilt I have about not being able to save him (at five years old!) makes me totally unable to deal with people going through similar without panicking
Like I said, do speak out, do talk to (considerately-chosen) friends, but don't put it all on a single person, and do also look towards professional help, which is literally there for this exact purpose.
Sorry. I'm tired and sad and now my dad is on my shoulder again.
Sorry. I'm tired and sad and now my dad is on my shoulder again.
