Anyway, now that I’m settled, I want to share my thoughts on how love is pretty much packaged for women, as a way to excuse abusive behavior from men.

So of course love as a concept is nice and fun but that’s not the point here.

Now, a man supposedly killed his lover for paternity fraud - it’s fake news but for the sake of this thread, imagine it actually happened - many ppl have expressed directly or indirectly that they...

..understand how a man could react this way. Not one mention - as far as I know - of the love the man should naturally have for his lover. Cool.

Yesterday, a man did a whole thread about how women should leave after the third act of violence and when women argued that it should

..be the first, he simply could not accept or imagine this happening.

“How can you leave a man you love just because he slapped you?”

This is despite the fact that domestic violence is one of the leading killers of women in these parts.

Love, for women, is expected to come with acceptance, endurance and forgiveness.

Men cheat and women are encouraged to forgive, at least one or two times before leaving, sometimes more, sometimes forever but the same is not expected of men.

A man has nothing going for him, yet he imagines that one woman would love and accept him like that.

A man is unable to step up for his partner but not only does he expect that she continues to love him, he also demands respect, whether he earned it or not.

Obviously, the same does not apply for women.

Love is nice and natural but it’s also very packaged, very commercialized for women - as compensation for the abuse, dismissal and condescension of patriarchy.

So much patriarchal nonsense is packaged in a cute bow as romance. That video of the man recording his wife complaining about doing everything, for example. I’ve seen the couple on TikTok. They are supposed to be a happy, cute couple. It’s not perceived as the horror that it is.

“I do all the labor in the relationship, I’m tired and frustrated a lot of times but it doesn’t matter because I’m in love and my husband makes cute videos of me complaining sometimes haha.”

Romantic heterosexual love as compensation for women’s subjugation is designed in such a way that teenage girls even fantasize about it.

Fantasize about serving meals, cleaning up after an adult and even about complaining about not getting any help. A cute heterosexual ritual.

Some girl even fantasize about being “put in their place,” and maybe even being slapped around a little.

Love is weaponized against women very often. You go to your pastor to complain about your husband yelling at you perhaps, or not stepping up/“providing.”

It’s not unusual

..to be blackmailed with “love” and be made to feel like you’re a bad woman/wife for even complaining in the first place.

“Do you love him?”

You nod.

“Then pray for him.”

It’s turning into a long ass thread so I’ll just end it here. Point is, it’s great to be in love but love is often more of an expectation for women - not a feeling - and this makes it very questionable.