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Healthy detachment in relationships
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A thread
First and foremost, I’m not talking about emotional detachment. Emotional detachment means you’re physically present in the relationship but emotionally uninvolved. Healthy detachment means you’re giving yourself and your partner the space needed to be and grow as individuals.
Healthy detachment in relationships is ok. If we’re attached to our partner we likely need them to be, look or act a certain way for us to be happy with ourselves and the relationship. Love in it’s purest state will allow you to let your partner be and love them as they are.
Unhealthy attachment urges us to control circumstances and therefore control the outcome. Being attached means you live in fear of what you want not coming to fruition. It traps you in a constant state of desire.
Detachment is essential so that you’re not taking everything personal or trying to control others reactions. So you’re not seeking their validation to the point where your opinions and ways of thinking disappear. Love is about acceptance, not control.
You alone are the master of your own life and it’s important to set boundaries with yourself so no outside influence is in control of you. Let there be spaces in your togetherness to develop wholeness apart from each other.
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