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It’s only now through seeing everyone else sharing their stories of sexual assault that makes me think back to this. This girl was in the club completely sober and I was paralytic n she took me home on the pretence that she was just doing me a favour. I was sexually assaulted https://twitter.com/smithy94_/status/843400260697407488
I light heartedly tweeted that the next morning, I knew in my head that what happened was definitely not okay, she knew that she was doing. I’ve got vivid memories in my head that make me squirm when I think about it. It was honking.
Unfortunately for me it doesn’t stop there, I‘ve had a few occasions where I’ve questioned what’s happened to me. Definitely giving no consent. But this one is so in plain sight. Imagine leaving a note beside my bed like that, expecting me to get in touch after violating me. Jeez
I’m being careful with what I say here, but I think that when men get sexually assaulted it’s not taken as seriously. It’s kind of joked off, in my case anyway. “Can’t believe you shagged ___” last night, “aye ano me neither”.. the signs are always there.
But at that time if I was actually stop n say hold on a minute, she assaulted me. They wouldn’t take me serious. How can a big lad like me be assaulted by a girl. Why didn’t I just push her off me? These are questions that are asked.
I think the difference is that sexual assault on men 100% does affect them, and leaves them with doubts and bad thoughts after it. What happened to me was honking, aye, but sexual assault on a girl is often life changing. My life hasn’t been changed by this
So have I just contradicted myself? Just because my assault was not life changing, does that mean it shouldn’t be taken any less serious? Absolutely not. But it makes it a whole lot more difficult. It needs to be recognised, it needs to stop being joked off
I think in my case it didn’t change my life because my life was never at any point under threat. I know that if my life was in danger then my instincts would’ve kicked in and I would’ve got myself safe. Women do not have that luxury.
Update: I know in the OP it displays her mobile number. Please don’t try to contact her, she’s already aware. This is her reply to me. Reported for slander, how dare I, it’ll be taken further.
I can delete a tweet, but I can’t erase my memories.
No apology either.
I can delete a tweet, but I can’t erase my memories.
No apology either.
Here’s a receipt.
Ive never experienced a reaction like this before on twitter, Im overwhelmed with messages of support. Im proud of myself and I’m proud of all of you for sharing. More men are starting to come out with their stories. My DM’s are a very dark place at the minute. There is an issue.
Another receipt.
