Signs of ableism to watch out for in activists:

-Establishing 'bare minimum' standards for activism that demand long hours of daily work, constant exposure to emotionally devastating material, or physical labor.
-Dismissing critics of these standards as lazy or fragile.

-Demanding that disabled activists disclose our exact disability, and any treatments we are receiving, so that they can determine for us whether our limit are legitimate.
-Insisting that disabled activists "figure out" how to meet their standards in spite of our limits.

-Responding "Google it" when asked for recommendations on resources that activists can use to educate themselves. (Disabled folks ask because finding & vetting materials is time-consuming & exhausting, not because we're not willing to do the work!)

this is a tricky one because there ARE a lot of abled people who just want marginalized folks to do all the labor so they can feel good about themselves without actually being inconvenienced.

accusing disabled people of this *is still ableist*.

-Placing educational materials behind an inflexible paywall, or the ability to meet in public, or both.

Not only is the first one classist, but disabled people usually have LESS disposable money than abled folks, and may need financial accommodation.

-Accusing people who take time to focus on things that bring them joy or comfort of not taking the issue seriously.

-Expecting folks to be able to follow given directions immediately & without any additional clarification, & accusing folks of sealioning when they ask for help.

Something that's really frustrating, though understandable, is that it can be nigh impossible to bring these problems up to abled activists - who are used to fielding abled 'allies' giving bullshit excuses why they can't do the work, and don't know how to tell the difference.

Again, if you're a disabled ally in need of education, the best thing you can do is look for disabled mentors within the relevant marginalization. Don't settle for people who either don't understand your limits or aren't qualified in the subject at hand.

If you're an otherwise marginalized abled educator, make sure you're learning from disabled people who share your marginalization(s). They're the best qualified to help you understand whether you're being rightfully defensive or just ableist.

And as always, do your best to find the information you need on your own before asking someone to find it for you/educate you directly.

Everyone's time and energy is valuable.