Words used by spiritual abusers to cover the insidiousness of their words & deeds.

-I love you
-brother/sister
-friend
-praying for you
-I like you
-I appreciate you
-In love
-Don’t be divisive (telling anyone how you’re being treated is labeled “divisive”)
-etc.

Abusers use words of comfort to disorient and they use their victim’s fear of hurting others against them to keep them silent. In other words, abusers use goodness for evil & manipulate a person’s own righteous to serve the coverup of their own unrighteousness.

Abuse is twisted

It should be clear I’m not saying these words/terms are universally abusive. The difference is, abusers use these terms like anathesia before or after digging a figurative knife into you. They weaponize “I love you” while genuine people don’t. Real love builds, does not destroy.