Thinking a lot about what it means to enact the principle that no one is disposable, of restorative justice rather than carceral/punitive interactions, of what it means to center victims and their healing.

Mostly thinking about it in terms of this: https://twitter.com/east_podcast/status/1269610392554287108?s=19 (12 mins, transcript here https://docs.google.com/document/d/1R6BgqmRm0tQqtJDQ4a-PY6qINR-oozKGLXrdKCw6fIo/edit?usp=drivesdk)

But also in terms of leaving my husband, who was emotionally abusive, and as a survivor of sexual assault.

The idea that we are only and always the worst thing we have ever done is central to the current carceral system, where felons are stripped of voting rights forever.

And I think here about Michael Vick, who by everything I know has not only done his time but tried to make restitution, has changed his behavior. And yet still some people think he should be shunned forever.

Currently who gets offered redemption is heavily affected by race, gender, etc.

But anyway: is no one is disposable, that means *everyone* needs access to a healthy community that can support them - including, yes, the men who have abused and assaulted me. Which is sometimes difficult.

But ultimately those men will have no reason to change, no guidance or path to change, if they can't support themselves, if they can't access a community where people can show them the way.

And ultimately I think it serves no one if they can't access those things. It doesn't make anyone safer, let alone me.

It doesn't mean I have to ever want to hang with them again. But for my ethics, I don't think I can demand anyone else shun them on my account.

I dunno. It's a hard thing. But I'd like to believe we are more than the worst thing we've ever done.