Read on Twitter
yeonjun once said he's an overthinker right? and i am an overthinker too. so let this thread explain what you shouldn't say or do to overthinkers.
overthinking makes our mind so toxic. we think things that shouldn't be thought of. we thinks things that isn't true but we think is true.
people usually say overthinking people are just exaggerating and such. and everytime people tell us that? we overthink more about what other people say about us.
for example, someone said to you, "hey you look a little fat today"
and that's when we think things like, "what if they don't like me anymore because i'm fat?", "what if i don't look pretty anymore?" those kind of things.
but sometimes there are more worst cases to that.
for example, your friend doesn't talk to you for like a day. that's when we think things like, "is she angry at me?" "did i do anything wrong?" "what did i do wrong?"
and we start crying over just things like that.
never tell someone who's an overthinker something like this.....
"you're overthinking again?" "you're just exaggerating." "stop overthinking it's not good for you" yes i know its not good but how can we stop? we try to stop yes but even if we stop, we can't still avoid people overthinking
next example.... if you got into a fight with your parents....
and they tell you something like "you can't even do anything in this house!" "are you even our child?" "why can't you do things like this, like that?" "you're just stupid"
we overthink and overthink again. thinking things like "am i not a good daughter?" "do i even deserve to be their child?" much worse, they even think and question their whole existence.
much more worse if your parents compare you to other people. things like "why can't you be like your sis/bro who's good at this, these, that" "look at your cousin, she's getting good grades. how about you?"
its because of our parent's expectations right? and we can't meet those expectations. that's when we start to think, "why can't i just be like them" or "why do i have to be born like this?" and much more worst things questioning our whole fcking existence in this world.
what about the standards these world has? the standards in terms of clothing, physical appearance, and popularity.
if your clothes are not that good or you're not that good in fashion, they start to criticize you. if you didn't meet the expectations of a good body or face, they also criticize you. if you're not popular you're always being left out.
and that's when you start to think "oh my clothes are not good on me i'll never wear them anymore." and you just wasted your money on that precious clothes because of your overthinking.
if you have pimples, they criticize you because your not clear skin or what. like dude its part of puberty helloooo?? you're just making people overthink because your so judgemental.
your fat? yes they crigicize you too. like what's wrong with being fat? atleast they're healthy! what if they overthink things like, "i should get skinny so that people will appreciate me right?" and what? they overwork and exhaust themselves. like dude just let them eat.
and the feeling of being left out? that's the worst. like the worstest worst. your left out because you didn't meet their fcking standards. that's so fcked up.
when you're in public, you become so concious of yourself because you remember the things other people said to you. that's when you overthink that all people think the same about you.
as on meeting new friends, its so hard yes! you keep on thinking that maybe you're being annoying to them but in reality they don't think like that.
sometimes you think no one cares about you during hard times, but in reality there's always someone who actually really care about you. its just that you don't see it.
i may not have said everything in this thread, if you have any more to say, please comment down below! i'll add it here!
overthinking cannot be stopped. its normal yes. it can be experienced by anyone.
but please to stop them from overthinking, let them feel that they are worth it.
let them feel that they are welcomed.
let them feel that they didn't have to meet the standards to be welcomed in this world.
because standards are what makes people think they have to meet it to be accepted by the society
standards are just nothing. standards just make people become toxic. i don't even fcking care about those standards
never care about those standards. and just BE YOU. we are all humans. no one's above, no one's below. its just the society making us feel like we have ranks in life.
and just a tip! it might help! in times when you're overthinking, write all the things you are overthinking for, read them aloud while taking dee.p breathes! it might help you to stay calm!
got that tip from @GooseJimin!
if you have friends who overthinks a lot, help them! let them feel worth it, let them feel welcomed! let them feel that you are always with them and that they're never alone!
and for those people who overthink a lot, if you're reading this, please don't feel worthless and unwelcomed! you're very worth it. i'm always here for you! remember that i'll be beside you! if you want someone to talk to, my dms are always open! talk to me, let it all out.
and for those people who judge overthinkers, who knows, they might be overthinking too. but please never underestimate people just because they don't meet your standards. we are all humans! we are all equal!
please remember, you are never alone! there will always be one person who will be here for you! remember that! i love you! i want you to feel loved right now!
you are always loved! to the person reading this right now, i love you!
wow, i really didn't expect this to blow up and this is supposed to be about yeonjun's issue but i pitted that aside since its a serious matter to all of us! you are loved! thank you!
