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The culture of match-making by ticking off against a list of "qualifications" is so problematic. You are perpetuating the idea that character/personality is secondary; height, color, weight comes first. Matlab rishta lena rahy hain k qurbani ka janwar? https://twitter.com/BBCNews/status/1275327304030457856
So many Brown people growing up with the idea of being nothing more than their physical appearances, and so many thinking it's a valid card to play when rejecting. "Larkay ki height choti hai", "Rang saaf nae", "Larkey k saath khari ho key choti lagy gi"
Saw a documentary where this Indian girl gets a nose job after getting constant hate against it from her in-laws. They still had issues with it and she committed suicide. Burn in hell if you make someone so insecure about themselves that it hurts.
Match-making this way is cruel, unnatural and hollow. It makes people care about body image and looks more than it matters. Met so many good-looking people with trash personality. It's just not enough and nobody should demand of us that "perfection".
The primary criterion for qualifying as a partner should be your core intentions, values and goodness. Nobody has the right to crush your heart by making you doubt your uniqueness. Societal norms are cancerous. Own those looks. Aunti can keep her butt moving.
Cannot emphasize enough on #lovingyourself and #selflove. Game-changers really, if you manage to unlearn what people expect of you. Don't sell yourselves short. Know your worth and don't settle for rishtas that treat you like some version of an item they want
Stop teaching boys and girls that their body image, color and height etc. is smth to worry about kyunkey paida honay ka maqsad he kisi k saamney paaish hona hai as a model. This is not rishta maangna, this is a screwed up trade-off.
