I know this topic is tired as hell but I wanted to lay it all out in one post for easy reference so... hereâs a thread of every example of abusive behaviour that Adam exhibits presented as simply and concisely as possible.
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âIsolation: Abusers don't want you talking to anyone so you don't hear other's perspectives. They control you by isolating you from loved ones, telling you that only they care for you, & ask you to keep things secret. Question your loyalty & cause divides between you and others.â
âGaslighting: Abusers will make you second guess yourself, and make you feel like you are going mad. You start not to trust your judgments. "You're overreacting". People who are gaslighted will protect their partner and blame themselves instead. Tactic to create a power dynamic.â
âVictimizing: When you confront them about something they did, instead of acknowledging and apologizing, they play the victim. âI hate myselfâ, âI'm a bad personâ to gain your sympathy and make you feel bad for making them feel this way. âI'm not good enough for you.ââ
âBlame shifting: Abusers use your weaknesses/habits against you to make you feel inadequate. When you get upset at legitimate problems, they use your past to turn the tables, and before you know it you are apologizing to them, not the other way around. âYou canât take a joke.ââ
âGrooming: You feel like soulmates, they mirror you, make you feel that what you have is special. Groomers are pretenders, & unbelievably charming. They establish trust to set the ground for abuse. âYou're lucky to have me.â Victims feel at fault, because the partner is perfect.â
âImage Management: Their image is very important to others. Often regarded positively by others and considered trustworthy by many. You are even a poster boy for how great they are. They shift stories so people only see the positive aspects of them. Grounds for future abuse.â
âSmear Campaign: They will smear you in front of everyone so you appear to be the unstable one. They are skilled in making people believe them, that people will have difficulties believing your version of events because of their skill in upkeeping image. Makes you feel alone.â
âHoovering: Abusers will try to suck you back into a relationship or keep you from leaving by: declaring undying love, threatening to kill themselves, making future promises, or revealing things that they intended to do. They say something nice and if ignored become mean.â
Anyway I hope that makes it clear enough. Feel free to use this as a resource for ways to recognise abusive behaviours in relationships as well as further proof that people who deny Adamâs abuse are woefully deluded.
All descriptions are taken from this excellent thread here: https://twitter.com/Ashewyn/status/1274669456808202241?s=20