I think that with all of this stuff coming to light about the kinds of abuses women/people suffer/ed that it is also essential for us all to take a hard look at past complicity in not believing women.

Consider the fact that maybe at some point before we had a better way to discuss these kinds of invisible/emotional abuses, you believed and supported an abuser and what they told you about the person that they harmed: That some woman/person was crazy. Or a liar. Or a bitch.

Abuse does great deep long damage to victims/survivors. And whether they speak up or remain quiet, it often alienates them from community, which robs them of opportunities.

So, I gently suggest that you/we look to y/our own past and note that maybe there were instances where you turned a blind eye to maintain a status quo.

Ask yourself who did you suddenly shun in the past because you were told to? Is it possible that you were misled about a situation? What can you do with your newly enlightened self to be open and welcoming now? What can you do to make repair?