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Thread: For all of my fellow friends who are considered the kind hearted friends, the ones who are easy to talk to and the ones who everyone goes to for emotional support: this is for you.
Please remember that kindness is an amazing quality and people love it.
Please remember that kindness is an amazing quality and people love it.
Many people consider you the ones who are good listeners, pour their life story into you, trust you, and you let them cry on your shoulder. You’re an amazing friend. My advice to you however is: Guard your heart.
If you ever get that thought or feeling in your gut that asks 2 questions:
1) is this person constantly using me for emotional support and giving nothing back to me?
And
2) Am I just a backup friend that’s someone’s spare?
Trust that feeling. It’s usually right
1) is this person constantly using me for emotional support and giving nothing back to me?
And
2) Am I just a backup friend that’s someone’s spare?
Trust that feeling. It’s usually right
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve experienced and have seen others experience being used by others just to get quick advice or a cry out of their system and only enter back into their life when it’s convenient for THEM.
Ask yourself this: How many times has this person or people who always go to you with everything call you? Check in on your mental health? Ask about your family? If they don’t, it’s a toxic friendship with only one person benefiting and you being drained
It is also a red flag if this friend only talks about themself. Never about you. If you change the topic to something going on in your life and they bring it back to them that’s a red flag.
I have cried over these people. I’ve moved my schedule around for them. I’ve tried to impress them. Once it got so bad and I wanted empathy from them and exaggerated bad situations I was in just to get some reaction from them (this was in high school btw). It was toxic as heck
Please remember: you are important. Your mental health matters. You can’t constantly be filling others up if you’re not being filled up yourself. Your heart is precious. Guard it and don’t drain it. Some people are manipulative and not worth it
Letting go of toxic people can be hard and I’m not saying it isn’t. What I’m saying is it’s possible. Look for signs. Remember you are worth more than being how you’re used and treated.
You have an amazing purpose in life that’s more than just giving your heart and time to others who could care less about you. Surround yourself with people you care about AND CARE ABOUT YOU. Being emotionally drained by fake people isn’t worth it
Just remember: you are loved, you have a purpose and will do great things
