The problem with identity/labels is how they can trap you. When I identified as trans - when that first niggling pang of regret happened - I pushed it down because I was *trans,* period. Regret was wrong.

The label I'd given myself stopped me from detransirioning for a year 1/3

I also identified as a lesbian for 10 years but only just recently realised I'm bi. But rather than being happy that I'd learned something about myself, I felt shame.

I was *betraying* my identity - my label, that I'd held dear for so long. 2/3

Labels are poisonous if you make them the most important thing about you.

We're complex creatures. We should be able to change & evolve at any age without fear of being labelled a liar or a traitor to said labels.

And the worst culprit tends to be ourselves. Be kind to you 3/3