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this khanyi mbau interview is beyond entertaining.
she says she has always dated older and aimed for power. athi she's power-hungry. in grade 8, she will date the headboy.
she talks about how that comes from her father's lack of acceptance and validation and she figured with mandla, as an older man, she was the prize and he would appreciate what she brought to the table.
she says her and her siblings have daddy issues and are 'broken'. her dad was a taxi owner. from the age of 7, her and her sister registered and counted taxi earnings and 52k hard cash at that age was nothing. cash was a way to relate to her dad.
athi rich men never take you to the airport themselves, they don't have the time. they always have the ice boy.
she says mandla kept up with everything she did and would drop it in conversation and really deep-dived and was impressed with her. something her dad never did. he really wooed her, expecting nothing for three months.
I love that she says during that time, she dated other people cos she was young and happening phela. she was interested in the best offer.
shem her colourism is coming out already with how she describes mandla. he went from 'just a dark guy' to a 'dark stallion' after she realised his lifestyle.
her daughter was conceived that first time they were intimate. he bathed her himself afterward. he pushed the fantasy angle hard 'I'm not gonna date you, I'm going to marry you'. points out how he will move his stuff for her 'many clothes' that she will have.
this guy was vying for hero status. buys her a porsche while she's at work. it's like a western, he's smoking, telling her casually he's just dropping off her new car she needs to phone her mom to drive the other one home.
bathong she says she got sick and the man brought the whole of clicks and woolies to her family home. athi kungene i-ice boy nama plastiki while her family was shocked at his age.
they would shop per person 60k a day by the time they moved in together. wow!
they would go to shop in their robes. have the luxury stop get them breakfast from wherever and they eat in-store taking their time. no other shoppers for 3-4 hours. then they would buy what they like. the shops were twirling 
imagine this at 19.
imagine this at 19.
she says she never loved him. she hero-worshipped him. she felt like he saved her. 'swept off her feet' vibes. they only talked about fashion, cars, parties, who they're killing next. she was 8 months pregnant when she realised this.
she says she realised mandla was with her for the aesthetic when she got pregnant and was now putting on weight and actually had needs. she can't be as sexy and fun and she can't drink alcohol. his social status/visibility had increased from being with her so he went out alone.
she says wherever he went, he was offered women because 'that's what you do with a guy with money, you give him women'. plus he spent a lot of money so the places organised the girls themselves.
she says that's how zodwa came into the picture. and because zodwa didn't have 'the aesthetic', they had real conversations and bonded for real real. I-
mandla was losing money by investing in terrible ponzi schemes, started drinking a lot. he started beating khanyi while she was pregnant. her daughter was born early as a result of these beatings. wow. she left him. he went ballistic because he 'owned' her.
he bought her the lambo because he wanted her back. she could only come back for a week because he was horrible. she was already home with her mom when all his stuff started getting repossessed and he's been evicted.
she last spoke to this guy when her daughter was 8 months old. she has tried to find him to 'rehabilitate' him and 'help him' for her daughter's sake, she has not.
she had post-partum depression after that. and that's when she married the crous guy. she was dating for survival and on auto-pilot. she says 15 years ago she still deals with depression and anxiety attacks. she says it has affected the bond with her daughter.
she says she hurt so many people in the industry in that period and she lists them. that is very brave. she says she was so angry nobody could stand her.
she admits it's tough getting older after being an it-girl. she also says the market is saturated now and men are even more non-committal. times have changed basically.
and she tells young girls to look after their mental health and that these men are not here to build with you, you are entertainment, you're not at the table, you are serving at the table, make that arrangement work for you.
she says there's an overlap between slay queens and influencers. she says sometimes someone comes across as a kept woman, when they are working women creating content and not at leisure. so it's not the same thing. posts and products sponsored. mihlali gets a special mention.
she feels bleaching is like the sugar daddy thing. it was a taboo that is lifting. she says even today, a lot of these women in the media are not naturally that tone. she says it's like going to gym. she lists her different surgeries. fillers, cheeks, tummy tuck, boobs. konke.
when she said her daughter's first comment when seeing her father's picture was to comment on how dark he is. something was passed down.
she is quite hilarious and relatable.
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ok, there's a part 2. I'm glad she's serious about therapy, you can tell. she is quite the conspiracy theorist, though. she has been watching my mom's whatsapp videos. advocating for herd immunity/eugenics.
she says she loves her bf cos he's bitten off more than most men could handle but he works to handle her whole package better. she obviously has more money.
she says she was broke as recent as two years ago, asking for money to make the end of the month. coincidentally this was when she broke up with her bf for entertaining dm's.
her philosophy on mothering is a little hmm. essentially we're both doing this for the first time so you can't blame me for my mistakes. except she's the adult and parent 
this podcast guy keeps saying he rates her intellect highly. in fact he rates her up there with sizwe dhlomo lol and she said wow sizwe dhlomo. quaint.
she says she has nice political connections and rich circles she rolls in and t-bo touch always also pops up there. access.
I always forget that even though she's 35, she partied with everyone early, even abo lebo mathosa, khabzela, babalwa mneno and them.
'rich guy money comes with limitations, obviously you can't be yourself, you have to dress a certain way. with your own money, you can have a voice or an argument. a rich man's money you can't'
she has 8 siblings each with a different mother. that explains the lasizwe thing.
