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The ‘Alpha’ male is a myth. Being a dominant male is not what men should strive to be, most especially as a Muslim. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ was not an Alpha Male, so why should you strive to be?
Research backs this up too. “Taken together, the research suggests that the ideal man (for a date or romantic partner) is one who is assertive, confident, easygoing, and sensitive, without being aggressive, demanding, dominant, quiet, shy, or submissive.
In other words, a prestigious man, not a dominant man.“
“Thus.. a much more effective and healthier route for men having difficulty attracting women is not to attempt to cultivate the traits of the stereotypical, dominant “alpha,” but to cultivate the traits of the prestigious man.”
“It’s time we shed these black and white categories, and embrace a much more multidimensional concept of masculinity. The most attractive male is really a blend of characteristics, including assertiveness, kindness, cultivated skills, and a genuine sense of value in this world.”
“What too often goes missing in discussions about being ‘alpha’ or ‘beta’ is that status is context specific,” says psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman.
“A CEO of a Fortune 500 company has a high level of status in our society, but if he was thrown into the general population at Sing Sing Prison, he’d find himself at the very bottom of the pecking order. You can be an alpha amongst one group, and a beta in another.”
This reminds me of the saying attributed to Umar RA “A man should be like a child with his wives, but if they need him, he should act like a man.”
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