In case a Venn diagram would be helpful.

The far right is a direct result of our domination-based culture of man box masculinity. Boys and men are stripped of authentic connection through violence and bullying and then slotted into bullying hierarchical man box culture as the only remaining performance of manhood.

The WAY boys are bullied out of emotional expression and authentic connection is through the denigration of the feminine. "What are you, a girl? What are you a sissy?" This mechanism leads to epidemic levels of isolation in men while conditioning to see women as "less."

Extremist masculinity, what some boys and men fall prey to due to the violent trauma of man box culture, underpins white nationalism, MRA's, Incels. "Man up" becomes "hate difference" in large part because of the constant denigration of women by which we bully boys.

The tragedy is that man box culture falsely genders our powerful relational capacities for human connection as "feminine" and strips them away from our sons. Boys who show too much emotional expression, need for connection are targeted, punished, blocked from learning to connect.

Because of our "man up" culture of masculinity, millions of our sons are blocked from doing the years of trial and error work it takes to grow our relational capacities, our ability to express and connect in nuanced ways. That work is shut down.

Instead, our emotionally open and authentic little sons are bullied out of authentic expression and human connection by dominance based man box culture; once they are taught that women are less, that gateway of gender bigotry allows them to be recruited into race bigotry.

Because the denigration of the feminine is central to how we police boys into isolation, MRA's look right past decades of brutal bullying at the hands of other boys and men and instead blame women, especially feminist women, for our challenges.

It’s a blind spot of startling proportions, wherein men avoid unpacking ongoing brutality and bullying by other men, but become enraged when women refuse to accept this bullying as well. There is a massive cognitive dissonance taking place for men in this moment.

By the time men have arrived at MRA, Incel or White Nationalist belief systems, they have descending so deeply into blaming others, elevating their own victimhood over any self reflection or healing, that they are a real and present threat to any who don't share their beliefs.

We have to invite men to come in from the cold. To find real and authentic connection. We have to end man box culture so that our sons are not bullied out of their natural relational capacities, relational intelligence; the gift for connection we see so clearly in our young sons.

If you are a man wanting to break out of man box culture and find authentic connection, reach out to men's organizations like @mankindproject @HUMENorg @EvrymanBelongs or any group doing mens work that is a fit for you. It will change everything. Good men are waiting to help.

Want to join the battle against man box culture? Mark Greene‘s Book The Little #MeToo Book for Men reveals the destructive influence of man box culture in men’s personal and professional lives. It has been called “…nothing short of a blueprint for men’s liberation.”

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A resource from the @ADL https://www.adl.org/resources/reports/when-women-are-the-enemy-the-intersection-of-misogyny-and-white-supremacy

What is crucial to understand is the mechanism by which boys are taught masculinity in our dominance based man box culture. It is this mechanism, which makes masculine extremists such fertile ground for racist recruitment. This thread is on Medium: https://link.medium.com/I04pHJ6UF6