How often are you jumping in to try to save others because you’re sensitivity makes you feel overwhelmed with seeing them suffer. How often is your care actually just rooted in trying desperately to find a way to relieve your own discomfort?

When you pity someone or feel sorry for them, you are not seeing them holistically. You are judging their whole being based on their circumstances. You are not seeing the power and the greatness and the beauty they possess. You can’t really help someone who you can’t see clearly.

You might be able to help them get some temporary relief(or more accurately yet get yourself some temporary relief and perhaps a pat yourself on the back). But you aren’t able to truly help them transform their circumstances if you aren’t willing to confront your own intentions.

A great example of this phenomenon is the White Savior complex. Again this energy dynamic is extractive, voyeuristic, self serving and meant to relieve guilt. Although it’s subtle and some may say, why does it matter? But the intention and energy behind our actions always matters

It’s imperative to shift from the personality of a Sensitive/Empath/Caregiver/Healer to being a true vessel. When we are operating from the personality or the image, we perform heroics. We operate from ideals of service that are self deceptive and lead to overly servile attitudes