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When we discuss women in public restrooms, we’re told they’re safe, mundane places where no one bothers anyone and people just want to pee.
When we discuss transgender people in public restrooms, we’re told they’re looming danger zones in which trans lives are at risk.
When we discuss transgender people in public restrooms, we’re told they’re looming danger zones in which trans lives are at risk.
Is the danger real, or isn’t it? If opening up women’s restrooms to men who may identify as not-men is a harmless policy change, then how were men’s restrooms such a threat to begin with?
I’m so damn tired of these manipulative, bad faith messages. We are not this stupid.
I’m so damn tired of these manipulative, bad faith messages. We are not this stupid.
Or, if it’s not about danger, if it’s embarrassment transwomen are avoiding, then why aren’t women’s feelings of embarrassment and intrusion reasonable?
It’s not about danger. It’s not even about privacy, not really. It’s about power. Transwomen want to be around women when vulnerable because they know they have more power. They can take us in a fight, if nothing else. Not that we’d start one. Like I said, we’re not stupid.
Crossdressers have been going to LGB bars for ages for the same reason. They know gays and lesbians have a great deal less social power than straight people, and that makes our spaces safer. It makes them more comfortable. It feels good not to be the underdog.
Transwomen feel vulnerable, so they seek out other vulnerable people to surround themselves with. It’s understandable, but, in some situations, it just isn’t okay.
Liking how something feels doesn’t make it yours, and trans people’s comfort is not women’s responsibility.
Liking how something feels doesn’t make it yours, and trans people’s comfort is not women’s responsibility.
For the record, I don’t believe men’s restrooms are danger-free. I do understand TW’s concerns. But making women’s rooms mixed-sex doesn’t solve that issue; it just further spreads the risk. Instead of doing that, security risks in men’s rooms should be addressed.
The same facility designs we’ve seen recently for “gender neutral” washrooms could be adapted to improve privacy and security in men’s rooms.
The measures being discussed to make male-inclusive women’s rooms safer could also be implemented to make men’s rooms safer for TW.
The measures being discussed to make male-inclusive women’s rooms safer could also be implemented to make men’s rooms safer for TW.
They’ll never do it. They’ll never accept it. I’m just pointing out here that, if safety for everyone was the goal, we’d be talking about redesigning men’s rooms. But men and TRAs won’t accept that. They’re seeking conquest, not solutions.
They know who has the power.
They know who has the power.
The reality is, no space with both men and women present is free from harassment and violence, particularly when that space is secluded, and particularly when that space has been fetishized by men.
Women are not the ones who’ve fixated sexually on bathrooms.
Women are not the ones who’ve fixated sexually on bathrooms.
