guys, i have a question.

jokes aside, do moms really find it cute and endearing when their partner (father of kid) doesn’t know how to fully take care of the child without the mom’s instructions or help.

i mean doing basic things like dressing the kid or preparing their food.

i just saw an IG vid of a mom chuckling cos the dad dressed the kid today but put on the top the wrong way around.

the mom seemed unbothered about it and found it a bit funny/cute.

i saw another tweet of a mom “joking” about the list of instructions she has to leave for her husband when she’s traveling so he knows how to take care of their kids while she’s away.

dad’s replied by also “joking” about struggling to keep their kids alive when moms are away.

i’m really curious to know if mom’s really find it cute that their partner can’t take care of their kids without them (the mom).

or you’d like for your partner to be fully able to care for your child/ren without you having to tell them what to do.

i’m also curious to find of from dad’s if it bothers you at all that you can’t fully take care of your child/ren without the mother’s intervention.

or you believe that a mother should be the primary care giver of a child and you “help” when you can.

this is a sensitive subject and I’m really asking because i want to learn and understand.

so please feel free to DM me if you’re afraid of criticism or being judged.

from my DMs: “I did it because I thought taking care of a child was a woman’s job until I got a burn out and started to resent my partner, the father of my child.”

another DM: “this is one of the reasons my marriage broke down. I first thought it was cute that my husband was slacking, but later realized that I gave him permission to be an absent parent who lived with us.”

Another DM: “my husband used to joke whenever I took time out and say he’s baby sitting. Now he knows it’s not babysitting but parenting.”

Thank you to those who shared their experiences on the TL and also to those women who gave me the permission to share their DMs.

From what I gathered, a lot of new moms find it cute at the beginning, but it becomes taxing as times go on.

I also learned that some moms feel that they enable the fathers by choosing to be the primary caregivers.

All in all this has been quite an interesting conversation and I learned a lot from it.

Thank you

Please reply ONLY if you are a parent.

The rest of us can observe the conversation, but please DO NOT REPLY IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A CHILD.

a DM from a Dad: “there’s a difference between someone not playing a part in their kid’s upbringing and someone putting in effort but sometimes asking for help”

from my DMs: “Parenting is just as terrifying for new Dads as it is for new Moms. Just as we don’t want to constantly be assessed as new Moms, I think more Moms should give Dads the same space to learn. So what if he gets it wrong?

Parenting is a continuous lesson.“

From my DMs: “There’s absolutely nothing cute about Dads not knowing anything about their kids.”

from a single Dad raiding two kids:

“the first night alone I thought I wa last going to lose my mind. I cried and was ready to send my daughter back to the Mom. But now, I’m an expert at parenting.”