Y’all if you have THAT friend that you go to for advice, counselling, general ranting and venting:
Ask them if they’re in a good mental health space to accept your problems today.
Always ask. It may feel silly, it may feel stupid, but that stuff weighs on your friend.

Chances are THAT friend is that sort of friend for most or all of their friends. They’re not just listening to you and helping you but also eight other people. That’s a lot of weight for someone who isn’t a trained professional to carry. Remember they’re your friend first.

Also to be more transparent:
I am one of many that are That Friend™. More often than not, I don’t come to my friends with my problems. I don’t vent. I grin and bear it because I feel like my issues aren’t as pressing or as important. And it’s gotten to a point where I can’t.

So please take care of your friends who listen. Make sure they’re being heard. Be patient. Be consistent. Help them learn their problems are worth the time of day no matter how big or how small. Reassure them your relationship isn’t a shitty one-way street. Be That Friend™ too.

(Also please do not worry for me!! I am currently working on myself & my personal hang ups. My partner is helping me. I am learning how to break my bad habits. I just wanted to voice this for others who go above and beyond and are good people. You matter!! Your problems matter.)