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The pathway to accepting an adult diagnosis is kinda like going through the five stages of grief, but one of the steps is “who’s responsible for this?” Because SOMEBODY failed you as a child but which somebody do you hold accountable? What would be an acceptable penance?
I can’t hold my mother accountable, she did the best she could with the knowledge she had. I can’t blame my teachers because they either didn’t know or couldn’t do anything if they did. No doctor could treat me without parental permission. So it’s just one of those things.
Unfortunately that thing that happened left me holding the bag of guilt, and shame, and a whole messy assed life to clean up. And in those moments of anger and resentment, I would have liked just one target I could take aim at. For me, that target is spreading awareness.
Not only did many of us make it to adulthood without a diagnosis, some of us are told we COULDNT have ADHD because the diagnostic criteria was created around hyper little boys. Here’s what that looks like for women and girls https://blackgirllostkeys.com/adhd/women-deal-with-adhd-differently/
