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This happened to me while I was in a physically abusive relationship. https://twitter.com/WeSurviveAbuse/status/1180691498901352448
This happened to me while I was in a physically abusive relationship. https://twitter.com/WeSurviveAbuse/status/1180691498901352448
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He stole almost $45k from me, kept my belongings hostage, drained a joint account (we were engaged). Started stuff in my name.
He stole almost $45k from me, kept my belongings hostage, drained a joint account (we were engaged). Started stuff in my name.
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Accessed money from my business account then told me later.
Stranded me with no money in a new town to control my movements.
Accessed money from my business account then told me later.
Stranded me with no money in a new town to control my movements.
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Luckily I have never believed in putting all my money in a joint account with a man.
I was able to escape to my family in Maryland with a small suitcase, despite having moved across the country to stay with him.
Luckily I have never believed in putting all my money in a joint account with a man.
I was able to escape to my family in Maryland with a small suitcase, despite having moved across the country to stay with him.
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That was the 4th time I lost almost everything I owned.
Signed books. Nigerian clothes made for me by my mother’s hand or that she bought me. My two Akiba Kiessmira handmade dresses.
That was the 4th time I lost almost everything I owned.
Signed books. Nigerian clothes made for me by my mother’s hand or that she bought me. My two Akiba Kiessmira handmade dresses.
Funny what you end up missing.
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Anyway I’m sharing this to say ... one of the greatest things you can do for someone you suspect is in a physically abusive relationship?
Give them secret money.
Anyway I’m sharing this to say ... one of the greatest things you can do for someone you suspect is in a physically abusive relationship?
Give them secret money.
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Cash or Debit gift cards that they can hide until ready to flee.
Cash or Debit gift cards that they can hide until ready to flee.
It’s also a sign that often comes before the physical abuse.
It’s part of how they isolate you.
It’s part of how they isolate you.
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Also another good reason to check your credit religiously. At least monthly.
They’ll often start accounts etc in your name and go for your cash last.
Also another good reason to check your credit religiously. At least monthly.
They’ll often start accounts etc in your name and go for your cash last.
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If you have nowhere to go but fair credit? You can get away. You can get a phone in your name.
You can find a way to escape.
If you have nowhere to go but fair credit? You can get away. You can get a phone in your name.
You can find a way to escape.
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Why didn’t I leave right away?
I started planning that very second. But in 2008 I had no idea how to get away from him with no money.
Why didn’t I leave right away?
I started planning that very second. But in 2008 I had no idea how to get away from him with no money.
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Say you are suddenly estranged or 1000 miles away from the support system you rely on, in the early days of social.
With no money.
How do you get away? Especially when you are with someone trained to track people.
Say you are suddenly estranged or 1000 miles away from the support system you rely on, in the early days of social.
With no money.
How do you get away? Especially when you are with someone trained to track people.
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Help people (men too!) in abusive relationships instead of feeding into the rhetoric.
Help people (men too!) in abusive relationships instead of feeding into the rhetoric.
So many of us won’t leave shitty jobs or ask for our $20 back we’re owed.
And then don’t understand why someone doesn’t run from someone who is serious about killing you if they catch you running.
And then don’t understand why someone doesn’t run from someone who is serious about killing you if they catch you running.
I was one of those people. Not maliciously- like most people I just didn’t GET it.
Just like people don’t get...
Being color blind is erasure.
You can’t just “snap out” of depression.
Yoga won’t fix everything.
So understand: Getting out of abusive relationships is complicated.
Being color blind is erasure.
You can’t just “snap out” of depression.
Yoga won’t fix everything.
So understand: Getting out of abusive relationships is complicated.
I'm not ignoring replies. There are some I can't answer rn for self-care reasons. 
