A long thread but worth reading

Let me make things clear to our young ladies. Ask your parents for money & when you get older & get your own hustle & learn to live within your means. Stop expecting boyfriends to shoulder your responsibilities, some start having expectations

Stop visiting boyfriends in their houses & acting like a wife by cooking & taking care of them. Many boys will expect you to act the whole part. Let them know that they need to take the bold marriage step to get you to do thise things.

Always meet your boyfriends or any business partner in a safe place such as a restaurant. Don't place yourself in compromising situation. Let him be the one to follow you home 9 times out of 10. Modernity has its disadvantages you know.

What happened to the good aspects of our culture such as modesty and decency. Stop acting wifey to a boyfriend. Stop trusting immature boys. Islam has warned us that whenever a matured couple are secluded Shaitan is a partner.

My mother has always been alert before the rise in knowledge of child sexual molestation to an extent that we were uncomfortable. The rise in coverage of sexual abuse of kids made us grateful for her orientation and warnings. Sexual abuse is an open topic in my family.

Mama repeatedly reminds us that children are a trust from Allah and we should never expose them to danger. Every maid that comes to us is first oriented on child abuse to young children and she (maid) is also taught not to tolerate abuse from co workers or family members

Mothers should also try to give primary care to children. In recent times wives spend more time with the husbands to hold on to them and delegate childcare to a maid or relative. Husbands are adults who don't need to be babysitted and should also assist the mother in childcare

#ArewaMen know that the days of newly married will come & go. A baby is not just for Instagram pics but symbolizes growth & responsibility. Lower your expectation towards your women even if you won't help with childcare.The two of you are responsible for raising a helpless child

Parents should personally give primary care as much as possible. Bath your children before you leave the house of after you come back. Wash their privates your self. Opt for daycare against a single maid in the house. Make sure they are comfortable with discussing sexual abuse.

Don't leave kids for a millisecond with a colleague, an acquaintance. You may know them but you cant vouch for them. Let them play with small children in your presence. Don't allow male relations undue freedom with young kids. Discourage wresting, sitting on laps & seclusion

Always ask your children about school. When you notice physical or emotional changes ask them with love if any body has touched them in an improper way? Let them know you will always be there for them. Discuss possible threats abusers use to shut children up with them.

Wash young children privates before they go to bed. It is hygienic after they may have peed throughout the day & may also alert you to any foul play. Also talk to them about play they do with other kids especially older ones. Abused kids do transfer what they know to other kids.

Motherhood is serious business. Children are not just an adornment but a trust greater than all your assets put together. We need to shine our eyes and may the almighty continue to protect all of us from every evil within the society.

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